Scenario: My friend took my bicycle without my permission.

Fire approach: I am angry and confronts my friend. I eventually punched him without listening to reason.

Ice approach: It is not that serious. Don’t care so much. Ask the bicycle back from him. Also, tell him in a friendly but strict tone that this is not acceptable and he should ask for my permission. 

Plant approach (used after fire approach): I regret because my friend has a good reason. I apologise to him the next day and try to recover our relationship.